Rekindling Intimacy in the Age of Smartphones

Cell phones have become an extension of ourselves, and with the ability to work from

them, they’ve become essential in our daily lives. However, a study published in

Computers in Human Behavior highlights that excessive use of cell phones can lead to

mental health issues like anxiety and depression, while also straining interpersonal

relationships.

It’s important to understand that it’s not the phone itself that’s toxic, but how we use it that

can harm our relationships. Intimacy thrives on presence and undivided attention, which can be negatively affected if you feel your partner’s attention is too often on their cell phone and not you.

This creates a disconnect between you two and leads to: 

1. Decreased emotional and physical intimacy: Conversations and nightly

moments of connection are often replaced by the glow of a screen and the

constant buzz of notifications. 

2. Loss of shared experiences: For example, during a long-planned vacation, Sofia

spends more time updating Instagram than enjoying moments with Robert. By the

end of the trip, they have few truly shared memories.

Intimacy is a key factor in any relationship. It requires full attention and presence. It’s not

just about being heard, but about ensuring the other person feels heard.

What Can You Do? 

Here are some ways to maintain balance in your relationship:

1. Create tech-free zones and/or times at home: Set boundaries, like no phones during dinner or

in bed.

2. Practice mindfulness: Be present during important moments. Engage in active

Listening: make eye contact and respond to your partner’s attempt to connect with you.

3. Schedule tech breaks: Set aside hours, days, or weekends without social media.

Remember, Technology can enhance our lives but should never replace genuine human

Connections. If you need extra support in setting boundaries with technology, don’t hesitate to reach out.