Suggestions from a therapist of color for building boundaries.
by Deniss Pleiner, M.A
Whether it is boundaries at work, with parents, or with partners, we support our clients develop boundaries that feel genuine, comfortable, and authentic to them.
We know that boundary setting journey can be challenging-- especially if you are just starting out.
Here are a few main pillars we help our clients cover in their boundary-setting journey.
1. Discover Your Boundaries:
Knowing where you need to set boundaries is the start. Pay attention to your body and emotions: they are already telling you. A look at your core values can also be a good place to start.
2. Find What Feels Safe:
Once you know where you could benefit from boundaries, asking yourself "what would feel safe here" can help you define what boundary you need.
3. Give Words To Your Boundary:
They way you communicate your boundaries will be unique to you-- just like your boundaries themselves. Give yourself time to explore what words and behaviors would feel true and comfortable to use.
They way you communicate your boundaries will be unique to you-- just like your boundaries themselves.
4. Practice Your New Boundaries With A Safe Person:
Boundaries can be challenging to establish when it is a new practice. We find that starting with people and boundaries that feel safe and then working towards the more challenging ones is helpful in the journey.
If you feel you could use more help in this area, consider working with a therapist of color who can help you explore what culturally sound boundaries would look like for you. Schedule your free consultation with us below:
Deniss Pleiner, M.A. is the founder and Clinical Director of TOC Therapy-- a group
practice in California tailored to meet the mental
health needs of adults through individual and couple's therapy. As Clinical Director, Deniss guides the clinical development of TOC Therapy Associates and oversees clinical services and offerings. Deniss also works as a Mental Health Advocate, hosting workshops for organizations interested in supporting their member's mental health and developing emotionally intelligent leadership.